Try to stay positive try to fight your case do whatever you can and in the meantime go to school and try to do anything you can to better your life Im understanding of this issue Im a father who lost a child to CPS over past drug use and mistakes I made when I was 22 in 28 now it is so hard my son is now six but now there may be light at the end of the tunnel finally but i doubt that you will have to wait that long to get your kids back just dont fall into the cycle of self blame and feeling like its all your fault because its probably not and even if it was what matters is what you do next and my case has taken so long but its a more extreme example of what they will try to do when they can. None of the information on this website is intended to be legal advice. He is watching over them. Theyve already taken everything I have ever cared about and worked for my whole adult life. so no reason to bother you. But sometimes (most of the time) we have to learn the hard way. The loss of a pet may be your child's first experience of deathand your first opportunity to teach them about coping with the grief and pain that inevitably accompanies the joy of loving another living creature. This is my third time involved with dcs. I have been trying to pull together a Federal Class Action Law Suit. Having another condition such as attentional problems, learning issues, conduct or anxiety disorders also puts children at higher risk for depression. Nov.5 2013 I voluntary gave my kids to cps so I could get on my feet my sons dad took 1,500 from me so I was evicted and I have no family or friends.. Some of them, including our Governor, I contacted more than once, and used more than one method to contact him. I called my caseworkers superviser supervisor. Usually, divorce cases tend to drag on and often cause a lot of emotional distress and stress on the people involved. But either way my baby will know shes enough, shes worth it, and shes loved. One thing I always did was took full responsibility for my own actions. I feel pain guilt shame and sorrow deeper than I ever imagined possible. Depressed mood, loss of interest and pleasure, decreased energy, and increased fatigue are considered to be the most common characteristics of depression. I would love to introduce you to the Judge before whom every knee will bow. That is almost how they got me visiting with in-laws in the state of Texas cps came in and took my 2 beautiful and very loved little boys. I believe He allowed my kids to be separated from me for healing; to heal my depression, anger, and abusive tendencies. You will always be their mother. So I will pray for the fact that you lost your faith because you lost your kids. I have therapists available to me 24/7 should I become depressed overwhelmed or in any way unable to cope with my emotions or life. I was his mom. I am praying for you girl!! IM ALL ALONE.I have been battling depression and such most of my life but since this it has gone up like 100 levels. Although you should never feel ashamed of having PTSD from domestic violence, you should recognize its signs and seek treatment right away. I believe all parental authority over the child totally ends at age 1`8, It can in some circumstances be younger, if the child petitions the court to be emancipated!! You must forgive yourself. You got more education and now, a good job. Any normal loving parent would be! The decision of where your son will live is up to the judge so do what you can to impress the judge favorably. I thank God for my little ray of sunshine back in my life. We must not just stay alone and lost in our pain. Linda, I saw on your comment that you missed ten years of your kids life. Please if there is any one that can guide me I need legal representation urgently!! When i had gotten to TN i had to live with a friend and her husband and children in a camper. Now a`days I put it in them to say no. ?? He will especially want to know that you care about him. I myself, have been fighting dcs. When all was said and done i left and went home and got drunk to numb myself i spent the first week drunk everyday. Mothers who have lost the custody of their children are also seen to have a higher risk of anxiety and depression, and substance use. Also-now there is another rx pill-called a mood stabilizer that helps with the depression. But, that started about 25 years ago and now, I dont even get an emotional response from writing about it. Start there. Poems of Sorrow and Grieving | Poetry Foundation I do go to mental health but no matter what they do it does not work ive tried to concentrate my depression into bettering myself still nothing ive tried to do many many things and nothing helps so i always keep going back to marijuana and drinkin. Because my sons (they took my two youngest, ages 6 and 13) want to be home with me. Fight with all your might! }, { With all due respect, you are labeling a four year old as if she is a monster and you should be ashamed of yourself. And so is your pain. They were then 3years and 2years old. Recently, you may have read news stories about more and more spouses citing an exs depression in child custody cases. Lets fight this together, turn your hearts to God. If they come in and take the kids, just give em up and move on. My suggestion for you is that sometimes serving others can be the greatest blessing. BUT I do agree I have a lot on me and I am not fighting anymore. Now they have her daughter and will probably end up with the new baby. I still have court in Feb to follow up on my grandsons case I am still untrusting of them and I will only feel better when I get that FINAL ruling. Never will I stop doing whatever I can, which first and foremost is to pray. Lord knows I need a support system and Lord knows Im willing to support others going through this nightmare. I got only short uncaring text messages from the foster worker. That wasnt good enough they took them and I gave up custody to their father to keep them out of state custody. I have to think that theyll soon be 18 and able to make their own decisions!! I pray Henderson County DSS never hurts anyone like they have me again!! Im so sorry youre going through this. The lawyer the judge and the caseworker and da all kept evidence from me and lied to me. I have the certificate of adoption with her name on it. Thats a good idea to take your son to your mom. Always show your love to them. Like I dont know what to do. Stanislaus County? But now this is what the Lord says: Do not weep any longer, for I will reward you, says the Lord. Empty chair, empty room, empty space in every family picture. by . I was fragile before and then they took the greatest parts of me. { HELP WITH CIVIL RIGHTS ATTORNEYS IN GEORGIA PLZ }, { You worked for them for 24 years, meaning you did horrific things to earn a living and you want to play victim? My daughter has been sentenced to life with my ex and his child molesting roommate to be around their drug use and other abuse, while Im barred from seeing or talking to my own child for no reason. also our Facebook Group and Facebook Page. Depression Poems For Those Who Struggleand Those who want to better understand the illness 1. FightCPS: Child Protective Services-CPS-False Accusations, February 1, 2014 - By Linda Martin - 200 Comments. designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to amazon.com. You may call me at Psalm 131:1, 2 says, Lord, my heart is not haughty, nor mine eyes lofty: neither do I exercise myself in great matters, or in things too high for me. I need allot of prayer and support but isnt really have that so its just me paying and hoping ill be strong enough to sustain this once more. its ok count another death on your hands just after I finally rest in peace. I have 4 boys and he is the only one with substance abuse and anger issues. Nothing is yours. I would be taking this information to my state legislator and to the county board of supervisors or county commissioners. They say they are protecting the kids but really theyre hurting them more. Feelings of irritability, frustration or restlessness. We are not held accountable by God for the actions others choose evil against us, or our children. Nothing I could have said would have made any difference if He did not soften their heart. CPS took my whole life. That was before Child Protective Services social workers started taking children away because of PD. Thats a laugh. She is struggling with severe clinical depression and suicidal thoughts and has written an article describing how she feels. Helping children grieve the loss of a pet. Im so depressed lost and confused at how CPS did things and just how much they get away withMy family and I was violated and our constitutional rights tossed in the garbage and there was nothing I could doI really need help in this battle..My kids are being harmed in the worse way possible emotionally and minimally by being taken from the only ones they know only by an allegation.never knew cussing could be domestic violence. And one day we will all understand. Your experience of losing the custody of your child is the same as any other kind of loss you might experience. Lost my only child 1 year ago. However, if children are sad, irritable, or no longer enjoy things, and this occurs day after day, it may be a sign that they are suffering from major depressive disorder, commonly known as depression. The law firm of Vincent. I didnt care about anything. Dont cry, dont die, FIGHT for your babies. But one day I got on my knees and prayed talking to God like if he was my best friend asking him to forgive me that I couldnt live like anymore that I surrender myself to him that I leave all my problems in his hands. The agency probably wont be motivated to act on alleged abuse in the foster home, as it is not in their interest to do so. All actions that require caution and deliberate decisions must wait. It worked, we were so prepared, so knowledgeable of our rights, so ready to kick their butts and we won. Much love!!! I dont know how much longer I can take this. I miss my new born son very much. I wouldnt wish this pain on anyone! When losing an adult child, the grief can be compounded by guilt, by the loss of a friend, by the contemplation of our own mortality, and by the reality that the end of life is perceived as progressively less tragic the older a person gets. I am a very devout Christian but I sometimes wonder why God had allowed this curse to come upon me and my children! Kenneta, I got my baby back from CPS after eight months but my ex-husband used the CPS case against me in family court and lied about me in court documents. You are grieving. What is so important from our negative experiences is that we LEARN from them. I have been waiting to get the job I worked so hard for but because I have this founded case on my record cps has to verify and sign a paper and I have been waiting 2 months. They can do whatever they want whenever they want. This will help you gain PERSPECTIVE. Anger expressed in a healthy way is my defense mechanism to keep going on with life. One day your children are going to grow up and have kids of their own! I have not been before a judge are anything as of yet, they just coerced me into signing a safety plan to allow my kids to be placed with their dad. I am now his legal guardian! For now, try to be as stable as you can-by working, maybe going to a church, etc. Shortly after news broke via The Sun on Tuesday . One day we will ALL enjoy our children when they are adults and we need to work on ourselves as much as we can to be a stable, strong force in their lives! I am going to school and working but its not enough i still think about it and get depressed i cant even hold in my tears anymore I feel broken devastated,and feel defeated. I just got my 3 month old baby taken away from me 3 weeks ago I need lots of prayer he was my everything we were together all the time I feel depressed like nothing matters. Me, you and all the Mothers and Fathers on here are ALL in that same dark place with you! Anxiety: You may feel anxious or be preoccupied with worry about your child. We are accountable for how we respond to others choices. My daughter thought of it as fun and games during the years that she was going from one foster home to the next about 17 foster homes in all. They called me and I went to pick my precious grandchild up. Now he calls another mom. These methods will not help to survive the death of a child, but will only worsen the situation. They are very young 1 and 6 months. Got me going again. I cant live. I hit a rough patch in my life and lost everything. Might as well try. Is there anything I can do to avoid turning my son in? People who have lost a child have stronger grief reactions. Other features include decreased self-esteem and self-confidence, ideas of guilt and worthlessness, a gloomy and pessimistic outlook on the future, ideas or actions of self-harm or suicide, decreased concentration and attention, sleep disturbances, and decreased appetite. Equipping yourself with these skills can help you build a healthy relationship between you and your child. This could be a therapist, counselor, or support group. 3.) Is there any way to speak with you over the phone? When you lose custody of your child there are various stresses and worries that can overwhelm you. 2023 Law Offices of Molly B. Kenny, All Rights Reserved, Reproduced with Permission, Our Free Book Offers Criteria to Help You Choose a Lawyer Thats Right for You, Free Download: 9 Urban Myths About Divorce That Can Hurt You, "Molly and her staff supported me completely through a drawn out divorce. My son was taken by CPS due to a false allegation of DV. I feel like dying inside. I had a plan. The death of a child is the greatest sorrow for parents. I had my six children yanked. This is my horrifying life right now, you wrote this last year, what happened? Listen, my depressed friends, this is not the thing to do when your family is attacked by CPS. How can you show that? Recognize these triggers and prepare to handle the grief as needed. I later found my older son- age 28- on his knees in my room screaming and crying also. After a while we never heard from her again, and Ive always wondered what happened. I have no means of fighting this legally, except to pray that some how, some way a solution presents itself or I can find someone who will take payments or work for free. I hope to see you on the other side of this disaster a stronger person doing something for the good of humankind. Please help!!!! I am going to try and set up something, somehow to change the laws in my state of Arizona where it is now illegal to change your babys diaper. Sleep may be difficult for a while. If you feel - or have ever felt - some of these feelings too, you are not alone. depression after losing custody of childtown of hamburg personnel department. It is terrible to not be able to be with your own children, the children God gave you. I cannot live life without them. There are a few things that you can do to help cope with this situation. She was the head of CPS favorite. One factor that you may not have considered is depression and child custody. Let us take a look at some steps you can take to help yourself. Facing the death of a child may be the hardest thing a parent ever has to do. Seems to me CPS just make up thier own belligerent and exaggerated rules! And they took my son again and my daughter this time. Its easier said then done have ideas making flyers building Large fundraiser showing our cases to the world. There is strength in numbers, if we continue our fight after every No we may get That One yes that could find our kids and bring them home .. God works in mysterious ways. Proper nutrition and sleep will help you recover faster from grief by reducing stress hormones in the blood. Oct 29, 2014, 04:19 PM EDT | Updated Mar 11, 2016. Im not sure. Out of 2 years he spent 161 days with me and 71 of those were overnights. What can I do to get my kids back??! Yes, sorry to say, that is exactly what they often do. Thats a huge advantage. I wanted to end my life even though I did nothing to do so. It is a horrible experience for a child and mother to be separated. The court appointed childrens attorney (or GAL: guardian ad lib) however should be able to at least ruffle some feathers and have them moved to a safer home. I hope this helps you. I dont know what happened to him and Im really depressed. I live in Ventura, Ca! If I get my kids back, my first priority will be to secure their safety, but once that is achieved, I will be back on the front lines. They left the terms of visitation up to him and he only lets me see them if I pay for supervised visitations. Consider including her baby pictures and photos of other family members. Wonder if I should ever let them be and live their lives without me. I give my God the glory, anyway. The two older girls are in two seperate homes. She didnt want to, and she was a GOOD mother just like you! Dearest Kathryn, I feel you girl!!! Thank you for this.. Denelle a word of hope for others going through the pain. But adoptive parent gave my kids back and collected payments. And it does not seem fair that they prevented me from returning home where we were loved and could have a quality life and held me captive in a strange state where I have nothing or nobody Im praying for US all. I am no longer allowing people to mind control my kids into believing that I do not love them or want to care for them. am in need of a friend who has been here to support me and also tell what i need to hear not just candy coat. Seek out support groups and support systems from family and friends. I never got to know my son he was taken from me an hour after I gave birth to him. Be sure to find a person or people who can share your grieving the death of a child with you. I am so sorry I am sad to know someone like me has experienced similar pain because I feel very alone. My kids were taken because of excessive discipline. Candy, your posting touched me deep down, and brought tears to my eyes because youre doing all the things I would hope any TPRed parent would do. I hate myself that I let CPS come into my life and take them from me. My heart is breaking. Depression can run in families. And for this county that I live in they had to go and pick on one of the ONLY good mothers my age; seriously, everyone my age is strung out and even selling their kids meds etc for drugs and I dont do anything accept put them first and try to get through college! Goodbye. its been a nightmare and Ive been living in hell cuz of cps they was only suppose to be gone 6 months and its been 2 yrs of fighting for my kids every time I turned around it was something. . Get better education, a good job, pursue meaningful hobbies, or whatever it is you need to do to feel better about yourself. God is Good. My rights just got terminated in March this year 2021. The more you earn, the more likely you are of being able to help your children when they need you. 5). Looking Up! In some cases, the childs wishes will be considered. A judge will only make custody decisions based on the best interests of a child. Well Im bout ready to give up..I dont wanna even think about what might happen from this point..yesterday was my last stateso here I sit..witj sleep mess and wine..smh..if I what else to do..Im gonna go crazy n Id rather for before that. The loss or attenuation of important . Believe me, I know I had 2 children taken by my ex without giving me a fair chance to be a parent to them. (Anything I say here, is nothing compared what I have written to Childrens Division Supervisors, politicians, and legislatures, so I am not worried about my phone number.) The symptoms of PTSD can include flashbacks, nightmares, anxiety, depression, behavioral changes, aggression, mood swings, numbness and panic attacks. I know its hard & those holidays are the worst. If I fail then Ill be in prison for kidnapping one day and if Im not itll be because Im the best fugitive possible. We live in a sinful world where we are warned to take heed but sometimes no matter how good we try to be, evil overtakes us. It is key to be able to have someone that is fighting for you while you are fighting for your kids. If I ever follow through with my plan, I will leave a note to each of my children telling them it was never their fault and Im sorry that I failed them. I do it one day at a time. A study that has looked into the accounts of fathers who have been separated from their children has a higher likelihood that they will developed a dependency of substance use- especially with alcohol, have conflicts with this ex-partner, which will add to the various stressors that he might find hard to cope with leading to mental health issues. I need someone to pray that I get my babies back. financial distress form california. I will pray for you, When they are 18 you never get those years back of raising your kid people dont raise a kid for free to abuse them but to love them when will they understand that, You are not alone my 4 babies were taking from me for no reason a bunch of lies these women need to be in jail for taking my sweet babies from me God bless you. I wasnt a perfect parent, but I wasnt a bad one either. Cps had my rights terminated April 12th this. You can still be their mom. I too am in the same boat. I only see them for two hours a week. Not the police ,the school district let alone the social worker by the name of Shelia Hawkins her supervisor or her supervisors supervisor. There are many issues surrounding divorce and separation that can impact you and your child to great extents. When hes able to scan the internet, will he want to find a litany of accusations against his mother, or will he want to find that his parents are mature enough to co-parent responsibly for the good of their child, without anger and tension? I am not equipped to continue to do this on my own. All I want is to be treated like a person and have a chance to see my grandson and say good bye. Many of us have little or no money; those who have money, spend it all trying to fight their own battles before realizing that this is a world-wide epidemic. Thank God he knows he is a child of God. CPS sided with her, stating she made a bad choice. Attend a worship service with beautiful uplifting music at least once each week. 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